Even a cyber relationship needs some mutual ground for understanding.
DON'T ask questions like, "What do you do with your sub?
If you notice a sub who has the respect of the Dommes, sure envy him, but also watch him and learn from him!
If you yourself outside the chat room just re log in.
Real life Dommes are much more impressed to find out that you have a brain, can hold a polite conversation, and have a few manners." or "What would you do to me if I were your sub." We don't do fantasy fodder wank material.
What he is doing is working, he has the Dommes attention.