Cougars are all the rage for men in their twenties through forties (although the latter are kidding themselves—they’re no young cubs).But just what is it about women in the 40 plus group that is such a turn on?You’ll thrive in the game of dating younger men if you can pin that down, and if you can avoid the bad behavior of your fellow 40-plus felines.Trying to dress like you’re half your age makes you look twice your age.You probably don’t have the abs you used to back in the day, so get acquainted with flowy tops.The good news is your girls probably grew with age and maybe a little weight gain elsewhere. Play the music you like when he comes over, suggest movies from your youth on movie night, and for goodness sake do not keep up with the Kardashians.One of your cub’s favorite things about you is you’ve got “vintage” style. He won’t like if you imply he doesn’t know what he’s doing.He wants to know what’s interesting and popular in your age group. Don’t try to keep up with a young buck by suddenly wanting to go out all throughout the week and drink hard after work. If there are certain things you need to happen in bed, present them in a way so it’s fun for both of you, and not just all in service of your big O.
It’s natural to reference your own history, experiences, victories etc.in conversation, but you have to watch it around a cub. Don’t completely stay quiet about what you’ve done!Part of what attracts a young guy to an older woman is all her knowledge and experience about careers, travel, relationships and life in general.When he asks you about your history, don’t be afraid to share.Like a crop top or too much makeup, catty behavior instantly ages you.So long as you see your age as an advantage, so will your cub.But he can smell it the second you feel insecure about your age, and being catty to younger women is the first symptom. And to a cub, that type of body isn’t a turn off—it’s different and exciting.Too many cougars hit the gym obsessively, whittling their bodies down to nothing but bone. He won’t know as much about money management or interior design or even table manners as you do.His apartment might be messy and his resume might be all botched up. If you lie about having children or send them away to visit their aunt anytime your cub comes over, everybody will feel guilty.Your guy will feel guilty that your kids have to scram when he’s around, and you’ll feel guilty about hiding your pride and joy!A younger man wants to feel that you’re approaching the concept of dating younger men from a positive place.