Unfortunately, some Christians hope that they can convert the person he/she is dating or marrying.
They often think that their spirituality is strong enough so that they can witness, or motivate the other person to convert through their patience and love. Three reasons: They love the person and are emotionally blinded, they are naive, or they do not know God's Word.
This may sound harsh, but something as serious as marrying an unbeliever needs to be dealt with properly and to-the-point.
We are not to compromise the will of God and endanger our spiritual well-being.
All we need to do is look in the Old Testament to see why God says not to marry unbelievers. "When the Lord your God shall bring you into the land where you are entering to possess it, and shall clear away many nations before you, the Hittites and the Girgashites and the Amorites and the Canaanites and the Perizzites and the Hivites and the Jebusites, seven nations greater and stronger than you, The reason not to marry an unbeliever is that he/she can influence you away from the Lord.
Don't be so naive to think that "you" will never fall. If you marry an unbeliever and have children, how will it effect their spirituality to have the parents divided over spiritual things?
A "yoke" was a farm implement that bound two animals together so that they could work together as a team.Modern translations remove the "yoke" and translate the intent of the verse, warning believers, "Do not be bound together with unbelievers." Does this apply to marriage?I have received a few emails from Christians (and even one from a non-Christian) asking if it is okay for a Christian to date or marry an unbeliever.Usually, by the time the question is asked, the relationship has gone far enough that a negative answer is going to be difficult to accept, even if it is the right answer.The short answer is "no." However, it is good to examine the scripture behind the answer to understand it more completely, including why such a marriage is a bad idea.The usual answer given the believer is from 2 Corinthians: Do not be bound together [unequally yoked] with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?( In these verses, the Apostle Paul compares believers with unbelievers in terms of light with darkness (verse 14), Christ with Belial (a references to Satan, verse 15), a believer with an unbeliever (verse 15), and a temple of God with a temple of idols (verse 16). Even though you may think you have a lot in common, the most important things you don't hold in common.The Bible, especially the New Testament, warns Christians to avoid idolatry.An idol is something that is held in higher esteem than God.Since an unbeliever doesn't believe in God, to him everything is an idol, including his relationship with you.Included in the list of idols are sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed. Likewise, the joining of a Christian and a non-Christian joins Christ to an unbeliever.