Do you feel you can’t handle the rejection that comes with meeting new people?
Read my advice to this woman who feels the same way and how she can turn things around to lighten up and enjoy the process more. I don’t know how not to get upset, stressed out, and anxious over all the rejection on the Internet dating sites.
Can you please help me find a way to feel calmer about the process?
It’s just way too worrisome for me the way I’m currently going about it. ”Worrying in Worcester Dear Worrying, Regardless of what kind of dating you do, rejection is a part of it.
I know this is really hard for you, but if you are going to look for love, there is no way around the possibility of being turned down, dropped, ignored, or broken up with.
So somehow, you’ve got to learn to toughen up a bit.
When you think about it, people online aren’t really rejecting you because they don’t even know you yet. Reframing Rejection from People You Haven’t Met Yet So my biggest piece of online dating advice is to reframe the word “rejection” as it relates to the people you haven’t met yet.
And if they were “the one” for you, they wouldn’t disappear so quickly.They were attracted to others and you exhibit the very same behavior, so find a way to let this go and not take it as a “true rejection”.That said, perhaps I can help you with some additional strategies to lighten up about the process. Take the Pressure Off Every time you meet someone new, my bet is you think he might be “the one”.That is a heck of a lot of pressure on him and you.Instead, take it down a few notches and think about it this way – you are simply meeting new people. Then you can relax and be yourself and not worry about the outcome.Heck, he’s just one more guy on your journey to find love.2.Get Comfortable Meeting New People I did this when I was dating and met 30 men in 15 months to meet the man who became my husband.What I discovered is that doing this helped me became very comfortable meeting new guys.And if a guy didn’t work out or never called, I took it in stride because I started to realize that he was just one man. Every Man Is an Opportunity to Practice When you have a first meeting with a new guy from an online dating site, this is your chance to fine tune your conversation skills.The more practice you have, the better you get until you can make conversation with just about anyone.This is another confidence builder that is not only a good for your dating life, but will serve you in life overall.